There are certain dates — whether they’re actual days or particular years — that have left indelible marks and make me stop to reflect. In every case, they represent significant moments in my life. While some are outrageously happy, some are sad and others represent great lessons in patience, endurance or humility. Even those that make me ouch have offered lessons. What I know is that if they hadn’t happened, this wouldn’t be my life, and I wouldn’t be the person I am today. Every single incident made me stronger, more loving and compassionate, more resolute and hopefully — in some way, shape or form — perhaps a smarter, better human.
March 7, 2008 — exactly six weeks ago today when Beth Looney donated her kidney to me — will forever be one of those monumental dates. You’ve read in every blog post how thankful and humbled I am by her generosity and the support of her wonderful husband David, and incredible children Shannon and Pete.
Another important date – January 7, 2008 — was the funeral of our dear friend Beverly Baker. Through our mutual friendship with Bev, we connected there. We both know she is smiling down from heaven. In exactly those two months — practically warp speed when it comes to transplants – our worlds changed. Bev was a woman of action; someone who made things happen, and happen fast. Her fingerprints are all over this miracle.
We’ve both received so many notes about how our experience has touched people’s lives. In Beth’s last post, she reflected on how her life has been changed on multiple fronts. I feel precisely the same. Neither of us ever imagined that this scenario would ever cause so many people to reach out, and yet it did. I’ve even heard from so many that they sent blog posts along to their friends who were facing challenging circumstances and wanted to offer hope. Simply amazing.
By the way, Beth and I were at the hospital on Monday, and we had a chance to visit. She’s been released and doesn’t need to return for two years. Oh happy day! When we spoke again today, and she tells me she feels ”great.” Mission accomplished, an amazing six weeks to the day after surgery.
I too feel grand after these six amazing weeks. Prednisone is down to 15mg, and after this next hospital visit I’ll be on an every-two-weeks schedule. And I’ve been released to go back to work on Monday. I am excited! I can hardly wait to present my “you’re released” slip.
I want to take a moment to thank the “gang of four” who were actually the “gang of five.” I hold Connee, Olive, June, Debbie and Susie directly responsible for my recovery. These five fabulous women were with me — literally — every step of the way, making sure I was cared for like a queen. Even better, we got to spend wonderful quality time together which is a gift in and of itself. It’s often said that laughter is the best medicine, and with each one we had heavy doses. So, dear ones, thanks for all you’ve done and continue to be in my life. You are such precious friends.
And also a special note to Ali and Mike who have made this blog such an incredible communications vehicle. They both worked tirelessly to design the site and make it work. These two nightowls were troubleshooting practically around the clock.
I want to acknowledge again your cards, e-mails and calls. Every single person has offered words of hope, encouragement, humor, love and support. I have more than 1000 emails, and there have been more than 5300 hits to our blog in these six amazing weeks. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
While recovery is really a full year, I do believe my journey will be shorter. I’m healthy, humbled, grateful and forever changed after six amazing weeks. I wouldn’t change one thing about this experience. And January 7, March 7 and 2008 are dates that are added to ”the list.” Every single day has been a lesson in love from an incredible community of friends and shared acquaintances. I have always believed that love and kindness are far more pervasive than we acknowledge, but I was never prepared for this outpouring. Miracles occurred and lessons were learned, once again, in these six amazing weeks.
Love, Yvonne
4 responses so far ↓
1 Dianne // Apr 18, 2008 at 9:10 pm
Yvonne, you are simply amazing. I can’t believe you’re going back to work already. I think I’ll hear Ali scream with joy from here. Congrats on feeling so fabulous, and much love to Beth, as well. I’m glad that things are going so well for you both. Believe me, when things in my life look bleak, I read some of your posts to remember just how good life can be, that every moment should be cherished, and that miracles are around every corner if you just believe. Thank you for that.
Big love! Dianne
2 Olive // Apr 18, 2008 at 9:26 pm
It looks like 7 is your new lucky number, Wannie! So, go play the lottery, will you? And use the money to fund the party that is surely to follow!
I just wanted to say thanks for the kind words, but also express my own amazement about yours and Beth’s speedy, remarkable recovery. While I dare not speak for anyone else, I was braced for a painful, long ordeal. It was simply miraculous to witness the two of you bounce back.
Yvonne’s courage was something to behold. Our friendship deepened during this time.
And, along the way, I made a new friend in Beth — whose strength, faith, and generosity sets the gold standard for selflessness.
I consider my life enriched by the entire experience. Thanks for letting me share in such an extraordinary six weeks. Just hard to believe it’s ONLY been six weeks.
Hugs,
Olive
3 deecoates // Apr 18, 2008 at 10:31 pm
dearest yvonne, as other have said so beautifully, this site has been a source of hope, and an example of the true meaning of love. if only all the world would read this six weeks history, what a far gentler place planet it would be. you and beth have been living examples of strength and generosity and what lessons are to be learned for you. several entries has been so inspiring that i have sent them on to appreciative friends . will this blog remain available for years to come? if not, i need to print it out in its entirety so that, like diane, i can read it when there is a blip on my radar.
i thank you and beth for the way in which you have shared this experience with all. i truly believe that you have left a beautiful footprint for many to try and follow. like you, i hope this blog will inspire others to share their good health, count their blessings, and love unconditionally.
ed and i are happy beyond words that your recovery is speeding along so smoothly. you and beth will long be in our prayers.
love, dee
4 lljones // Apr 21, 2008 at 11:09 am
Wonnie, you really should write a book. You write so eloquently and really touch so many people’s lives — I can imagine what any book you might write would do to those feeling lost, down, etc. There would be no way for them to feel anything but thankful and good after reading anything you write. I’m so happy for you and Beth and that all has gone so well. Here’s to the next 50 years of a wonderful life for both of you!
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